Care Partner Information Sheet

Dementia - Communicating with Persons with Dementia

Communicating with Persons with Dementia

How can you improve day-to-day conversations with people who have dementia?

Simplify your Talk

Keep sentences short. Only talk about one topic at a time. Long sentences that say lots of things are hard for someone with dementia to understand.

Here's an example of a sentence that is hard to understand, "We're going to have dinner before we watch television because I'm hungry."  Instead, you could simply say, "Let's have dinner!"

If there are still problems understanding, try repeating. But when you repeat, use different words to say the same thing. For example, you could say, "We're going to have dinner now." If the person still doesn't understand, try saying, "We are going to eat chicken now." Saying things different ways is helpful for a person with dementia.

But Don't Use Baby Talk

"Baby talk" uses a tone that people use when talking to babies. It uses very short sentences ("Eat now" "Dinner").  It also uses childish words ("choo-choo" instead of "train") or pet names ("sweetie"). Don't use baby talk when talking to people with dementia.  It can make them feel bad.

Be Respectful

People with dementia want to have real conversations. To make this happen, always respond when they talk to you, even if what they say doesn't make sense. It's OK if you don't know what they are talking about. The important thing is that you are talking together. It makes them feel valued and respected.

The tables below list other ways to help communicate with people who have dementia, and tips to use if the person gets upset.

Other Ways to Improve  Communication
Allow choice
Even simple decisions ("Would you like X or   Y?") offer a chance for choice. This gives control to a person who has little control.
Be specific
Use the name of objects or people when talking. Say "banana" rather than  "this."  Say "Uncle Joe" instead of "him." Avoid using phrases that people might not understand, like,"It's raining cats and dogs."
Orient
Face the person at their level while talking to them. Make eye contact.
Take time
Pause during conversations. Wait longer than normal for a response.
Use anything available
Photos, food, music, books, art, other people, or other objects can help open an opportunity to communicate.


Tips to Help If the Person Gets Angry or Upset
Be positive

Smile. Emotions are contagious. Nod and say, "Yeah….uh huh" when the person with dementia is upset and trying to say something. A touch on the arm can help.
Distract
Offer something simple, like ice cream. That can often calm down someone who is angry or upset.
Stay calm
Speak slowly and in a calm manner, even when the other person is angry. Learn what is pleasing to the person, and use it as needed.
Wait
Most things don't have to happen right away. If someone doesn't want to bathe, it's OK to wait. Try not to rush conversations or events.


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Written By: Jake Harwood, PhD, Department of Communication, University of Arizona

Alzheimer's disease and Related Dementia ~ Care Partner Information
Edited by an interprofessional team from the University of Arizona Center on Aging, Alzheimer's Association - Desert Southwest Chapter and Community Caregivers

This project was supported by the Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA) of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) under grant number UB4HP19047, Arizona Geriatric Education Center.  This information or content and conclusions are those of the author and should not be construed as the official position or policy of, nor should any endorsements be inferred by HRSA, HHS or the U.S. Government.